I recently finished a book called, "The Five Love Languages For Singles" by Gary Chapman.
In it he describes the five love languages that people speak in order to better express and receive love. He outlines them as follows:
1) Words of Affirmation - demonstrated through verbal appreciation and encouragement.
2) Quality Time - doing quality activities that the other person enjoys while keeping a positive attitude in the process. It's focused time on the other person not on the activity but always on what they like to do.
3) Receiving Gifts - giving visual symbols of love including the gift of yourself.
4) Acts of Service - doing simple chores for the other person out of love and not obligation.
5) Physical Touch - learning the touches that make the other person feel secure (in a non-sexual way).
After reading this book and journaling each chapter carefully, I discovered my own love language(s) -- actually my primary language which makes total sense to me and explains why many of my relationships never had a chance. I heard that chuckle! But seriously, failed relationships can often be attributed to the lack of speaking another's love language. My primary love language is quality time but I respond quickly to all five languages so, relationship with me is well, hassle-free.
I applied the same principles to my 13 yr old son. Knowing his love language is quality time, he absolutely loves when I play his favorite board games with him, take him to his favorite pizza place, and observe as he engages in his favorite video game. My only responsibility is to give him the time and enjoy being with him.
When I think of love languages though, I'm convinced that God is really only concerned with one - the demonstration of unconditional love. Are we speaking this everyday to our family and friends -- what about our co-worker or neighbor next door? Do we make an intentional effort to regard others as better than ourselves and when push comes to shove, can we relinquish all self-control for the better good and promotion of others?
As an example, love in God's economy can perhaps be measured in one way when we are faced with an uncomfortable or opposing situation that offers no hope of resolution, yet we make the choice to deposit love in the midst of it anyway.
Be encouraged that God's precious Spirit lives within Believers to make the task so much easier when we make the choice to speak His language.
GBY! Barbara :)
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