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The best defense to the worst offense is LOVE.

I am truly amazed that the art of being offended and giving an offense have been raised to a new level of Christian etiquette.  Why is it that many Believers wish for peace, even speak about it, but do not follow the things that make for peace?

And what are the things that make for peace except humility, meekness, self-denial, and love? How does a child of God edify another while quarreling and contending?  Remember Jacob?  He actually contended with God and got his hip knocked out of joint, for pete's sake!

Romans 14:19-21 states, "Therefore let us pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another. Do not destroy the work of God for the sake of food. All things indeed are pure, but it is evil for the man who eats with offense.  It is good neither to eat meat nor drink wine nor do anything by which your brother stumbles or is offended or made weak."NKJV

I like the way The Message says this.  "So let's agree to use all our energy in getting along with each other. Help others with encouraging words; don't drag them down by finding fault. You're certainly not going to permit an argument over what is served or not served at supper to wreck God's work among you, are you? I said it before and I'll say it again: All food is good, but it can turn bad if you use it badly, if you use it to trip others up and send them sprawling. When you sit down to a meal, your primary concern should not be to feed your own face but to share the life of Jesus. So be sensitive and courteous to the others who are eating. Don't eat or say or do things that might interfere with the free exchange of love."

When one pampers the flesh and fulfills its lusts others get hurt by willful offense given.  Your response should never be to take the offense however.  Why?  Because taking an offense can in no way further the Kingdom of God nor does it allow love to cover the misguided or misinterpreted words of another.  Our only responsibility when feeling offended is to respond in love to that situation or person who may have instigated the process.

Proverbs 17:19 in the NKJV states, "He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends."  Talk about a way to lose friends, FAST!

Holding onto an offense is rooted in pride.  The by-product then becomes unforgiveness and the result is a hardened heart and bitterness.  This is displeasing to the Father and fruitless.  If we are to abide in Christ then take heed to what scripture tells us in Proverbs 19:11, "wisdom gives a man patience and it is to his glory to overlook an offense."NKJV

GBY!  Barbara :) 


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Comment balloon 16 commentsBARBARA RIES • August 07 2008 10:21PM

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"Holding onto an offense is rooted in pride..." Barbara, boy did that line jump up off the page and scream at me! (LOL)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) about 9 years ago

Barbara - Beautifully stated.  I was actually having a conversation with a friend of mine today on this very topic.  I am going to feature this post in the Christianity and Real Estate group.

Posted by Jason Crouch, Broker - Austin Texas Real Estate (512-796-7653) (Austin Texas Homes, LLC) about 9 years ago

Hi Carol:  Well, were you knocked off your chair or just nudged a little :) ... can't believe I'm still awake typing away ... yeah, I know, dang pride is stinky.  We all deal with it and have to die to it daily -- stupid apple! I love you!  Barbara :)

Posted by BARBARA RIES, Your Cool Agent in the Coolest Small Town, Lititz! (Berkshire Hathaway Homeservices Homesale Realty) about 9 years ago

Hi Jason:  Thanks for the feature on C&RE.  I'm happy to meet you and glad you stopped by.  Welcome to "The Secret Place" and God bless you!  Barbara :)

Posted by BARBARA RIES, Your Cool Agent in the Coolest Small Town, Lititz! (Berkshire Hathaway Homeservices Homesale Realty) about 9 years ago

Barbara, I was knocked on my blogger's butt right onto the floor. You've got my attention (as usual). I'm going to be very busy taking care of "it" today. Will keep you posted on how it goes. (LOL)

Posted by C Tann-Starr (Tann Starr & Associates, Inc.) about 9 years ago

Carol:  Smile sweetie, we're all a work in progress.  I look forward to a "good report." TTYL, Barbara

Posted by BARBARA RIES, Your Cool Agent in the Coolest Small Town, Lititz! (Berkshire Hathaway Homeservices Homesale Realty) about 9 years ago

This was a good post Barbara, the message is a very important one for Christians today.  Unlike the "turn the other cheek" lesson, which people wrongly take to meen act subserviently, the bible does teach forgiveness and not holding grudges. 

Posted by Jon Michael (DeGeorge Realty LLC) about 9 years ago

Jon: Thanks for your thoughts and posting to the group. GBU! Barbara

Posted by BARBARA RIES, Your Cool Agent in the Coolest Small Town, Lititz! (Berkshire Hathaway Homeservices Homesale Realty) about 9 years ago

Great point.  When we say a kind word to another, it can completely change their day for the better.  Sometimes we forget that we are all in this together.

Posted by Karen Gentry>>Charlottesville, Virginia Real Estate Professional (RE/MAX Excellence-Charlottesville VA) about 9 years ago

Hi Karen:  I appreicate your insight and thank you for posting to the group.  God bless you!  Barbara

Posted by BARBARA RIES, Your Cool Agent in the Coolest Small Town, Lititz! (Berkshire Hathaway Homeservices Homesale Realty) about 9 years ago

Thats a great word.  I needed that reminder. I get a little too focused at times. I need to let some things slide.

Posted by Chuck Carstensen, Minnesota Real Estate Expert (RE/MAX Results) about 9 years ago

Hi Chuck:  I hear you.  Walking in the Word gets easier the more we stay in it and remember who authored it.  GBU!  Barbara :)

Posted by BARBARA RIES, Your Cool Agent in the Coolest Small Town, Lititz! (Berkshire Hathaway Homeservices Homesale Realty) about 9 years ago

Barbara - Thank you for this post.  So many need to learn and be reminded to work and live together in harmony - including myself.  Thanks.

Posted by April Hayden-Munson, Brookfield Wisconsin Real Estate about 9 years ago

Hi April:  You're very welcome and thank you for your comment.  Barbara

Posted by BARBARA RIES, Your Cool Agent in the Coolest Small Town, Lititz! (Berkshire Hathaway Homeservices Homesale Realty) about 9 years ago

Barbara

Love is a powerful emotion, and forgiveness is the highest form of love.  To love and be loved....it doesn't get better than that.

Posted by Paul LeMay (Caretaker Property Services) almost 9 years ago

Hi Paul:  Thanks for your post -- please stop by again. GBU! Barbara

Posted by BARBARA RIES, Your Cool Agent in the Coolest Small Town, Lititz! (Berkshire Hathaway Homeservices Homesale Realty) almost 9 years ago

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