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 "Pure and undefiled religion before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their trouble, and to keep oneself unspotted from the world." James 1:27 (NKJV)


The United States is the world's leader in fatherless families!

Look at these examples of the impact of fatherlessness on today's children:

  • 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes.
  • 90% of all homeless and runaways are from fatherless homes.
  • 71% of all high school dropouts are from fatherless homes.
  • 70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions are from fatherless homes.
  • 85% of all children who exhibit behavioral disorders are from fatherless homes.
  • 70% of long term inmates are from fatherless homes (WorldNetDaily 2002).

Compared to their peers, children of a single-parent home had:

  • a 77% greater risk of being physically abused.
  • a 74% greater risk of suffering from emotional neglect (Dept. of Health and Human Resources).

*All statistics are from National Fatherhood Initiative unless otherwise indicated

As a sat in a missionary conference yesterday, a speaker who is in ministry began to share about the fatherless child and the startling statistics above.  I don't think anyone in the auditorium had a dry eye.  Personally, I was not aware of these facts but something in my heart changed when her presentation and prayers were over.

I felt  that somehow, someway I could make a difference.  Perhaps being a foster mom or respite home for a single mom who is very challenged in some way or maybe I could begin missions work in orphanages or address this issue on a local or state level or even within the churches in my area.  Perhaps I could volunteer for agencies and organizations that already address this plight.  But somehow, I have to do something.

God never promised us a perfect world.  People make choices and He won't violate their will.  But we can all take a serious look within our own lives and ask this question

Am I making a difference in the life of a child right now in my own neighborhood who may be or become part of these statistics?

God bless you as you search your heart on this topic.


GBY!  Barbara :) 

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Comment balloon 8 commentsBARBARA RIES • July 30 2008 10:21PM


I grew up with just one parent......... it is not easy.......... for the parent AND the child.......


Posted by Alexander Harb, Dallas, Texas Real Estate Investing (Knights Investing) over 12 years ago

Good thought provoking post Barbara.  It is important for single parents to find support for themselves and for their children.  Forming an emotional family will help with the day to day challenges.  Many single parents are able to do this and the children turn out fine but many more fall through the cracks.

Our society must begin to deal with the issues that lead to so many children being born to unprepared mothers.  A child is a gift from God but the gifts are not always appreciated as they are given.  I get frustrated when I see the extreme efforts that courts make to keep children with a natural mother.  How many more children have to be subjected to inadequate care and nurturing in the name of "biological rights"? 

The challenge is to do something.  I worked for many years promoting goodparenting. I try to set and example for others and talk to young women and teens about the responsibilities that come along with the cute booties and adorable clothes.  If you can provide the foster care then do but it is a heartbreaking situation to send a child back to a parent who is more interested in the amount of $ they can receive in welfare than the child's best interest.  You will need to be very strong.  Good luck.     

Posted by Paddy (Patricia) Pizappi, Real Estate Associate Broker Hudson Valley NY (Better Homes and Gardens Rand Realty) over 12 years ago

Wow, Barbara, excellent post.  This is such an important subject.  Many men, when they divorce their wives, also divorce their children.  And many fatherless children are born to unwed mothers.  I can remember a time when divorce was almost unheard of and having a child outside the bond of marriage was heard of even less.  I think the government is the father (provider) to many children nowadays since the fathers no longer feel responsible for the well being of their own children. 

Posted by Shirley Parks, Broker, 210-414-0966, San Antonio TX Real Estate (Sands Realty 210-414-0966) over 12 years ago

Hi Alex:  As a single mom, I know the struggles on both ends.  It is difficult, indeed but I am a big proponent of God's love walking people through the difficulties. Thanks for your post. Barbara :)

Posted by BARBARA RIES, Your Cool Agent in the Coolest Small Town, Lititz! (Berkshire Hathaway Homeservices Homesale Realty) over 12 years ago

Hi Paddy:  Welcome to 'the secret place' and thank you for your thoughts! 

I absolutely agree with you.  There is a mindset covering what is in the best interest of a child when it comes to court decisions.  It is very sad when a child is kept in a home where his or her needs are not being met, sometimes even the basic ones. 

I truly believe the root of fatherlessness as a whole, is selfishness on a parent's part, in some form. Regardless, the innocent ones; children, usually end up paying the price.

Thanks again and have a great evening!  Barbara

Posted by BARBARA RIES, Your Cool Agent in the Coolest Small Town, Lititz! (Berkshire Hathaway Homeservices Homesale Realty) over 12 years ago

Absolutely Shirley!  My parents are married for almost 60 yrs and when I dated, trust me, they knew the guy AND his family AND his current GPA!  Today, the sanctity of marriage seems to no longer exist, kids are making babies and boys who think they are men are failing dramatically in their efforts to prove a point.

Fatherlessness is a tragedy indeed.  During the conference i attended a speaker said that if every church in America would sponsor even just one child, it would wipe out the foster care system as it exists today. 

Thanks again for your visit and please stop by to share your thoughts again!  Barbara

Posted by BARBARA RIES, Your Cool Agent in the Coolest Small Town, Lititz! (Berkshire Hathaway Homeservices Homesale Realty) over 12 years ago

Hi Barbara -- powerful post.  We often think of fatherless children being youth and adolescents, yet even adult children without fathers, or poorly performing fathers, are adversely affected by their "absence" -- God bless you!

Posted by Terry Rasner-Yacenda, "Dreams Realty" (Broker,Owner - Dreams Realty) over 12 years ago

Hi Terry:  I believe the impact of a father in a child's life --absent or one lacking in parental skills greatly affects the future lives of both men and women.  It is a tragedy in our country to know the statistics.  As with anything adverse one needs to look at the root of this problem that is; satisfying the lust of the flesh, selfishness and pride.

Thanks for your insight and posting to the group. God bless you! Barbara :)

Posted by BARBARA RIES, Your Cool Agent in the Coolest Small Town, Lititz! (Berkshire Hathaway Homeservices Homesale Realty) over 12 years ago

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